Why are Filipina women so silent?
Its not that I am asking for the woman to act like a porn star, highly exaggerated moans and screams and other special vocal effects from all those directed videos that I use to watch before. But why is that women are so silent, and it’s all too clear that they are doing so not because it is their nature, but they seem to be controlling the urge to let out the music of their ecstasy?
I have always considered “doing-the-do” (yeah, that’s how I usually refer it to) as something that a guy should do to the best of his abilities. Especially when it happens that I will be the one guy who would be tagged with the distinction of being the first. Unlike many that I know of, being the first one entails a lot of responsibility.
It’s not about just being the first, but being the unforgettable and fondly remembered in that aspect of a woman’s life experiences.
And because I am such, I cannot help but notice that the one I’m doing the do with is somehow inhibited from letting me listen to the rising song inside of her body as both of us move together, like violin and that thing you play the violin with. And somehow, I believe that because of this inhibition from being vocal is the reason that I had to endure all those bite marks on my shoulders and fingernail rakings on my back. As I have said, I don’t expect her to act like a porn star (a fake act, and I know I can detect one, would actually kill the spirit of the deed if you ask me) but I sure do find the act of stifling it a little bit... disappointing.
I guess the situation is rooted on the “bad image” of doing the do that was ingrained into our psyche by our colonial past where women were forced to act in a certain manner, a “womanly” manner. But if you are going to look at how men have really treated women over the last centuries, it’s a contradiction, or so it seems. There is actually a reason why such “womanly” practices were encouraged; even the so called preciousness of a woman’s virginity is actually something that men of earlier times came up with for their own advantages.
I actually can’t help but pity a woman who believes that keeping her virginity is something so important, who consider it as a gift to their future husband, who even believe that such an idea was originally hers. I’m not saying that one should lose it, but at least it would be good if she knew why it’s in her belief, and who put it there. But that’s another story I guess.
Of course, amidst the many experiences, it is possible that women are really like that, silent. I mean, I can’t really say how it is to be a woman anyway. And that all those that I have seen and heard from all those videos are just that, directed, meant to deliver a message, although a negative one, of how a woman should act when doing the do.
Of course, I’m not saying that I do not know of any vocal women. I do actually. I know because they did tell me that they are vocal. Not that I do not trust their words, but I cannot really attest to the veracity to their statement for lack of firsthand, up close and personal experience.
I have also heard about other vocal women from my male friends. But usually, those that they talk about have been doing the do for sometime (though knowing my kind, they tend to exaggerate things at times…). It’s not a bad thing actually, I don’t see it as something against the woman for being experienced (if I did, how could I ever look at myself in the mirror and still have self respect, huh?). Though it makes me think if she does it so good and she wants to share the experience or she is looking for that one good experience to erase the memories of so many bad ones before.
I have always been a sucker for women who are vocal, though in another kind of way: women who know what they want, women who are not afraid to speak out their thoughts, women who see the truth about the so called norms of society and are not afraid to break them. And yet my experiences with such vocal women tend to end inside the four corners of a locked room.
There is also the possibility that I am responsible at some point for the silence. There must be something wrong about how I do the do. There must be something about how I perform that leaves them in silence, that takes away their ability to speak out.
Something akin to being in the presence of a deity.
I wish. Nah, I know.
Ok ok, I have been too vocal here. Now I am going to shut up.
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